This post is going to be personal as I am ADHD and dyslexic, and so are my husband and my children. I could not take more pride in my "condition" as I know it is the driving force and ability behind everything I accomplish.  I will say I could not read a full book till sixth grade, barely graduated high school, and was convinced the only job I could get was as a hairdresser and makeup artist. It was my father, a"h, who basically said, "You're going to college," and so I did. I graduated with a 4.0 average with three kids, went through my master's program, got certified in CBT, became a licensed addiction counselor, work for my mentor Rav Fanger, and have a successful Life Strategy Project Manager business. I also reach hundreds of followers, clients, and listeners a day. No, I was never medicated, and I have A LOT to say about it. There is no right answer for every person. Many of my clients are ADD/ADHD, and yes, B"H, we see a lot of succe...

For all those who say they want Moshiach, this is a once-in-a-year opportunity you cannot miss. Tonight is Asara B'Tevet , one of the most crucial fasts of the entire year—the fast that commemorates Nebuchadnezzar's siege around Jerusalem, the beginning of events that led to the destruction of the Beis HaMikdash. The Chasam Sofer teaches, says H'Rav Amar, that every year on Asara B'Tevet the world is judged whether Moshiach will come this year or not—whether the Beis HaMikdash will be rebuilt. This isn't just a fast about the past—it's about our future. Rav Avitan adds that you can daven for your own personal geulah tonight as well. Whatever exile you're experiencing in your life—this is the time to cry out for your redemption. Don't take this opportunity lightly. Tell H'shem how much you want the geulah—it depends on you. The Yanuka says it only took one person's actions to bring about the destruction of the Beis HaMikdash, then it only nee...

  Rabbi Rosner teaches us that Chazal said Yaakov was punished for complaining about his difficult years. Why? Because through all the pain - Esav, Lavan, Dina, losing Yosef - H'shem was orchestrating everything for good. Yaakov should have trusted the process . Sometimes we're in the middle of the story. The hard part. The confusing part. We can't see how it could possibly turn out well in the end. But hang in there, in the end it will be good, and if it's not "good" yet, it's because it's not the end.  Trust the process . H'shem has a plan, and your best interests are being taken care of.  You may not have picked the script, you may not even like it, but trust H'shem. He knows what you need and what you have to go through to get what is ultimately good for you.

  When Yosef finally faced his brothers, he could have held onto every bit of hurt. The pit. The slavery. The prison. Years of pain. But he didn't. Why? Because he saw H'shem's hand in it all. "It wasn't you who sent me here, but H'shem" (Bereishit 45:8). He understood that everything he went through was exactly what he needed to become who he was meant to be. Yosef is teaching us that holding onto anger won't change the past. It will only poison the future. Your anger might feel justified. But ask yourself - is it helping you, or hurting you? When we trust that H'shem guides every step, even the painful ones, we can choose to see the good. We can choose to release the burden. Forgiveness isn't about them. It's about freeing yourself . Let go. Trust. And watch how much lighter you feel. 💙 Photo by Chris Liverani on Unsplash

Flu Season Reminder: Stay Focused, Calm & Stay Healthy The flu is making its rounds – but first things first: don't panic. Here are three things to remember: Take Smart Precautions: Wash your hands before eating, drink plenty of lemon water, take your vitamins, eat healthy foods, and keep moving and breathing fresh air. Watch Your Stress Levels. Your fear and stress directly impact your immune system. Ever notice how you tend to get sick after a traumatic or stressful situation? That's not a coincidence – your mood affects your body's defenses. So stay positive and take care of your emotional health, too. Remember Who's Really in Charge. This is the most important point: the flu, just like everything else, is controlled by H'shem. If He's challenging you with illness, it's for your good. Your body fighting germs is a healthy, natural process – but if you give the virus, the germs, or the situation the power instead of H'shem, G-d forbid, you leave...

It is said that Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len healed an entire ward of criminally insane patients using Ho'oponopono – working only on himself. His radical insight? What you feel about someone projects directly onto them. Shlomo HaMelech wrote: "כמים הפנים לפנים כן לב האדם לאדם" – "Like water reflects face to face, so does the heart of man to man" (Mishlei 27:19). The water doesn't lie. It shows you exactly what you bring to it. My mentor, H'Rav Fanger, teaches this method in his seminars, and here's the practical application: Before you approach someone – whether it's a difficult conversation, a challenging relationship, or just your everyday interactions – pause. Build up your feelings of love and empathy first. Work on your ahavat chinam.  This even works from afar.  Because here's the truth we don't always want to hear: How others treat you is often a reflection of what you're projecting onto them . Dr. Hew Len used four phrases: "I...

  We invest so much into Chanukah, and then suddenly it's over. Like a wedding – you don't mourn the day after, you use it to begin a new chapter. The Lubavitcher Rebbe taught that the closing moments of Chanukah are specifically the time to start new initiatives. The light we kindled for eight nights wasn't just for those nights. It is the fuel to carry you forward. Your challenge: Don't let the light fade. What's one thing you want to start? One area where you want to grow? One initiative you want to take on? Make an action plan. Infuse the lights of Chanukah into it and let them light your way. Photo by Josh Boot on Unsplash Photo by Josh Boot on Unsplash

  Tonight is Zos Chanukah. Everything is possible. The rebbanim teach that on this night, the gates that opened on Rosh Hashanah swing wide again. The Baal Shem Tov says this is our chance to do teshuvah for not serving H'shem the way we should have all year. So here's what you do before you light: Take that note you've been davening from all Chanukah – or write one right now. Your deepest request. Your biggest dream. The thing you're almost afraid to ask for. Hang it from your menorah before you light the candles . Then light. And daven. Daven for yourself. For your future. For your friends. For Moshiach. But most importantly – believe . Believe that H'shem hears you. Believe that anything is possible. Believe that this moment matters. The Sfas Emes teaches that Zos Chanukah contains all eight days of Chanukah – all that light, all that holiness, concentrated into one night. Leave your note hanging there until next year. Let it be your reminder that you davened, y...

  Night 7: Happy and Peaceful Shabbat Tonight we lit the 7th candle. The 7th candle before the 8th is like Shabbat before the 8th day, that is l'ma'alah min hateva (above nature). That's what tonight's lighting is all about. Understanding what the 7th really means—Shabbat is our weekly taste of olam haba. A day when we get to disconnect and just spend time with H'shem. What we work toward all week long. What we work our whole lives for. Tonight, as you light, daven for peace in your home. For the kind of serenity that makes Shabbat truly feel like a brachah. Daven for a happy home and a beautiful Shabbat table. Daven for the wealth to make Shabbat truly beautiful—without pressure, without stress. For children sitting around the table with their children, singing zemirot and saying divrei Torah. For shalom bayit—the kind of peace that makes your home feel like a taste of Gan Eden. Because when you celebrate Shabbat as you should, it becomes the blessing that sp...

  This Shabbat is a triple celebration - Shabbat, Rosh Chodesh Tevet, AND Chanukah. We bring out three sifrei Torah - one for Parashat Mikeitz, one for Rosh Chodesh, and one for Chanukah. Besefer Hilchot HaMeyuchas, attributed to Rabbi Yishmael Kohen Gadol, there's a special gate in heaven that only opens when three Torah scrolls are taken out on Shabbat. The Beit Yisrael of Gur used to tell people to focus on their deepest prayers during this opening of the Aron Kodesh - that H'shem will fulfill their heart's requests. Reb Yemima Mizrachi teaches that's the secret to adding one more candle every night of Chanukah. This is how we must approach tefillah. * Never give up. Keep showing up. Keep davening. * Even when you don't see results yet, keep increasing the momentum - add another candle, add another prayer, add another moment of connection. That persistence? That's when the gates open and the breakthrough comes. Photo by Taylor Flowe on Unsplash

Tonight we light five candles of the Chanukkah menorah.  Five fingers like the five candles.  They're reaching out to hold someone else's hand. Even when you don't think they deserve it. We're happy because we  choose  to be. Not because someone makes us that way. Because being happy for someone else's simcha? That's being happy for H'shem. They're His children too. When you choose happiness, when you choose to make peace in your home - that's when the Shechinah has a place to rest. And if you choose emunah and bitachon, trusting that only H'shem can give you what you need - then He will. Each night we add more light. Each night we choose to overpower a little more darkness. Photo by Sara Rostenne on Unsplash

  Tonight, we light the fourth candle - stability. But here's the thing: trying to take control doesn't create stability. It does the opposite. Taking control in any form comes from fear. Fear that things won't work out. Fear that you won't get what you need. So we grasp, we force, we try to make it all happen ourselves. Real stability? It comes from being part of the process, not forcing it. Rabbeinu Bachya teaches: When you take control, H'shem backs off. But when you trust H'shem, He maneuvers the events and people in your life to benefit you. Trust in H'shem. Trust the process. Look at everyone and everything in your life and ask: How can this help me grow? How can this move me toward who I'm meant to become? 🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️ Photo by menachem weinreb on Unsplash

  The best way to influence anyone? Be the person you want them to become. The Yanuka teaches: Want to help someone do teshuva? Work on yourself. H'shem will work on them. People can only learn lessons from those who truly live them. So this Chanukah, stand by those candles, daven with everything you've got, and perfect in yourself what you're trying to give over. H'shem will bring the yeshuot. Chag sameach 🕯️🕯️🕯️ Photo by Eliezer Muller on Unsplash

Second Night: Two Flames, One Mission Tonight, we add light. Two candles are burning together. This is the time to daven for shalom bayit - peace in your home. Not because marriage is easy. Not because it comes naturally. But because peace starts in the home. And it only takes ONE person who's determined - truly determined - for there to be peace. When you choose peace, you're creating the ultimate resting place for the Shechinah. Tonight, as those two flames dance together, ask H'shem: Let my home be a place of peace. Let me be the one who brings it. Because שלום בית isn't just about you and your spouse. It's about making a dwelling place for H'shem in your home and in this world. Light with that intention tonight. 🕯️ 🕯️ Photo by Eliezer Muller on Unsplash

Tonight, before you light: Write out your tefilah - what you're asking for. Make two copies. Place one under your menorah. Hold the other and say it out loud as you light. Then: Thank You. Thank You. Thank You. Chanukah is about recognizing every gift H'shem gives us - and when we see our fortune, we open the pipeline to receive even more. Have the name א-ה-י-ה in front of you. Feel its power. This isn't just a mitzvah. This is the most important meeting of your life - where everything is possible. Light with intention tonight. 🕯️ Photo by Eliezer Muller on Unsplash

  The Complete Guide to the Segulot of Chanukah Chanukah isn't just about commemorating a miracle from the past—it's a spiritually charged time when the gates of heaven swing wide open, and we have access to supernatural yeshuot and brachot. Here's everything you need to know about the segulot of Chanukah. The Mystical Numerology of Chanukah Yerushalayim and the Lights The navi says: "והיה בעת ההוא אחפש את ירושלים בנרות" - "V'haya ba'et hahi achapesh et Yerushalayim b'nerot" (At that time I will search Yerushalayim with candles). What's the connection? Yerushalayim is mentioned in Tanach 656 times. Nerot in gematria equals 656. And "achapesh" doesn't mean "search"—Hakadosh Baruch Hu says He will bring Yerushalayim to chofesh (freedom). These Chanukah lights will illuminate the geulah for us, the freedom from galut. The 36 Angels We light 36 candles total during Chanukah. There's an astonishing hint in Yes...