Stability comes from being part of the process Chanuka focus

Tonight, we light the fourth candle - stability.

But here's the thing: trying to take control doesn't create stability. It does the opposite.

Taking control in any form comes from fear. Fear that things won't work out. Fear that you won't get what you need. So we grasp, we force, we try to make it all happen ourselves.

Real stability? It comes from being part of the process, not forcing it.

Rabbeinu Bachya teaches: When you take control, H'shem backs off. But when you trust H'shem, He maneuvers the events and people in your life to benefit you.

Trust in H'shem. Trust the process.

Look at everyone and everything in your life and ask: How can this help me grow? How can this move me toward who I'm meant to become?
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