Is there a secret to making a change in your life? Rav Fanger teaches that how a person views the events in their life will be the deciding factor in how they react and what effect these events will have. What is the key? The power of flexibility. To some, this comes naturally, and to others, it is entirely against their nature. The rhythm of life continuously guides us through a series of events. Some are expected, while others are a complete surprise. Irrational expectations trigger disappointment. "What should be" leads to feelings of frustration and anger. These reactions inhibit any growth or change from occurring. The solution: One must develop the art of "flexibility" instead of being stubborn and rigid. They must learn to navigate around these events instead of feeling helpless and stuck. Then, without waiting for or needing things around them to change, one can dramatically improve their life. Communication: When you have an expectation of how things ...

  Overcoming Negative Thoughts on Your Journey to Self-Improvement On the path to self-improvement, we often encounter negative voices of doubt and failure. Fearing these voices might be right, we question our ability to succeed. However, by preparing ourselves to recognize and subdue these thoughts, we can prevent them from sabotaging our progress. Strategies for Handling Negative Thoughts The "One More Day" Technique : When negative thoughts arise, counter them by saying, "For one more day, I am going to do my best; just one more day." This approach is effective because it doesn't commit to "forever" or "never," making it more acceptable to our doubting minds. Avoid Arguing : Engaging in arguments with negative thoughts is often counterproductive, as failure tends to seem more plausible than success in these mental debates. Use Distraction : In particularly challenging situations, employ distraction techniques to break the cycle of negative...

  Our facial features aren't just physical - they directly shape our character traits and personalities. The curve of our lips, the shape of our eyes, the structure of our face - each feature influences who we are. Even more powerfully, the Hebrew letters in our names carry profound spiritual energy that molds our very essence and character. Each letter holds specific traits and qualities that drive us. Here's the beautiful truth: we all share the same basic facial features and the same holy letters, yet the way they're uniquely arranged in each of us creates entirely different personalities and character traits. This divine design teaches us something incredible - while we're all made from identical building blocks, our individual combinations of features and letters make each of us irreplaceable to H'shem. Every person carries a distinct set of character traits and spiritual qualities. When we realize that everyone's unique blend of traits is exactly what...

    Imagery: Harnessing the Power of Imagery to Break Unwanted Habits Imagery can be a powerful tool in our journey towards self-improvement, helping us break free from unwanted habits that hold us back from reaching our full potential. Business and Life Strategist Tony Robbins shares a compelling example of how he used guided imagery to overcome his nail-biting habit. The process is straightforward yet effective. First, Robbins would close his eyes and vividly imagine himself biting his nails. Once this image was clear in his mind, he would use a mental swiping motion to push the image away, replacing it with a positive action such as taking a sip of water or engaging in meditation. This technique can be applied to any habit you're struggling with. Start by bringing a clear image of the unwanted behavior to mind. See yourself engaging in the habit, then mentally erase this image with a swiping motion. Finally, replace it with a positive action or thought. Let's consider...

Scenario A: You're heading to pick someone up from the airport. Your calculations show you'll arrive 20 minutes early, so you'll have to circle until they exit. A woman driving 15mph under the speed limit is in front of you, with no way to pass. Are you nervous or annoyed? No? Why? You have all the time in the world and may even enjoy the relaxed ride. Scenario B: Same scenario, but you're running 20 minutes late. Would you be just as calm? No? Why? What changed? The circumstances triggered the part of your brain that springs into action when you need to get things done. Your brain sends messages like "I have to get there now" and "I'm going to be late," triggering anxiety and frustration that can lead to hurtful behavior. The one constant in both scenarios? The nervous elderly lady in front of you, who just lost her husband and has to start driving herself after years of depending on him.  Would your judgment change if you knew their full stor...

 The Yanuka teaches that everyone MUST do this important preparation for Rosh Hashana.   Write a complete list of everything you need to do Teshuvah for, going back as far as you can remember. Repeat this list while doing Teshuvah every single day until right after Shacharit, BEFORE Chatzot on Erev Rosh Hashana.  Then, on Erev Rosh Hashana, right after Shacharit, say your list again while also adding everything you need H'shem to gift you with so that you can serve Him properly in the coming year. May we all be inscribed BEZ"H in the Book of Life, Good health, Prosperity,  spiritual growth, Nachas all the Brachot all the Yeshuot 🙏 Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

Why hasn't anyone gotten tired of breaking the glass under the chuppah? I'm sitting here in Jerusalem scrolling through my feed - elaborate bar mitzvahs, over-the-top weddings, business banquets with seven types of meat... And then reality hits: 60,000 new reservists just got called up. Another hundred days ahead. My family members are out there risking their lives, Facing enemies, Sleeping in sand, No real bathrooms, No real showers, Not changing their socks for weeks. Women and children left at home, hearts pounding. And when I speak to the common folk outside of Israel, I hear: "What, the war is still going on? I mean, I know it is still going on but you know everyone is just really burnt out. They can't keep hearing about it anymore". So you console yourselves and throw a bone - "We sponsored a BBQ for the soldiers!" - and go back to your lives. If you're tired of hearing about this war, why aren't you tired of breaking that glass at every ...

 Want to fuel your body the RIGHT way? Start with nature's candy: fresh fruits, nuts, and seeds. It's not just about eating healthy—it's about eating CORRECTLY. Your body has been fasting all night. It needs natural sugars, enzymes, and hydration to kickstart your metabolism and brain function. 🍎 Easy to digest 🍌 Natural energy boost 🥝 Packed with vitamins and fiber 🍇 Hydrates and cleanses But here's the key: Do your research. Don't fall for the latest fad or trendy diet. Trust the sources that have stood the test of time—the ones with decades of real results, not just flashy marketing. Traditional wisdom + modern science = the sweet spot for sustainable health. Your future self will thank you for the choices you make at breakfast. Make them count.

  Your space reflects your mindset. 🏠✨ Want to grow your business? Scale your family life? Start with what's right in front of you. That cluttered desk isn't just messy—it's mental noise. Those piles of papers aren't just disorganized—they're decision fatigue waiting to happen. You can't think clearly in chaos. You can't be productive in clutter. You can't build something great while drowning in the small stuff. Here's the truth: You can't avoid it. You have to deal with it. Clean your space. Organize your systems. Create room to breathe, think, and grow. Success starts with the space you occupy—both physically and mentally. What's one area you're going to tackle today? 💪

  The Power of Judging Favorably: A Path to Life's Blessings The Judgment Connection We all desire that H’shem inscribe us in the Book of Life, granting health, prosperity, and nachas. Rav Ashkenazi teaches that our chances of being sealed in the "Book of a Good Life" this Rosh Hashanah depend significantly on how we judge others. Research Into Relationships Rav Ashkenazi conducted an in-depth study of human relationships , focusing on individuals who had experienced significant changes in their personal and interpersonal dynamics. His research specifically examined cases where relationships had deteriorated or ended. Through this study, Rav Ashkenazi discovered a common pattern among those who had "given up and broken off" their relationships. He found that these individuals often felt burnt out or rejected because they didn't receive something they had expected or asked for from the other person. The Expectation Trap This insight highlights the crucial ...

Overcoming Personal Struggles: Breaking Free from Autopilot Have you ever wondered why changing feels impossible? "I've tried so many times to break this habit, to become the person I want to be—but I keep failing. Why is change so difficult?" The Autopilot Problem One of the main reasons we struggle is because we're on "autopilot." We're so busy, pulled in so many directions, that our reactions become habitual and impulsive rather than conscious decisions. Our habits run on automatic, making change feel impossible. Breaking the Autopilot Mode The key is bringing your struggle to the forefront of your mind, engaging your "thinking brain"—the conscious, cognitive part that makes deliberate decisions. This allows you to override the autopilot mode and take control of your behaviors. Example: Controlling Your Temper Say you want to stop shouting. You know raising your voice damages relationships, yet emotions often take over. Here's a strateg...